Pre-wedding jitters are something most couples who are about to get married will experience. It’s normal to have moments of uncertainty before you get married. What isn’t so normal is pervasive pre-wedding doubts, couples with a gut feeling that something isn’t right. Ideally, everyone would express these doubts to their partner in a healthy way before they walked down the aisle, but sadly, this world is not ideal.
Shockingly, The Times reports that 65% of divorcees contemplated leaving their ex at the altar. A further 49% claim to have known their marriage was doomed before they even tied the knot. In this article, we’ll give you a couple of pieces of advice about how to cope with doubts you might have before your wedding. We’ll also explain why hiring a private investigator might be an option for you.
Pay Attention to Your Emotions
If you’re feeling anxious as your big day approaches, you should ask yourself why. Be honest with yourself. While it’s natural to feel nervous in the lead up to your wedding day, genuine cold feet will feel slightly different.
By the time you get married, you should know yourself well enough to distinguish between the stress of wedding planning, pre-marriage nerves, and severe doubts about the marriage. If you don’t, you might want to reconsider getting married in the first place.
It might be worthwhile asking someone who is happily married how they felt before their wedding. While everyone is different, it might help you to get some perspective about how you’re feeling. With this perspective, you’ll probably be able to make more reasoned decisions about the future of your marriage.
Spend Time with Your Fiancé(e)
An excellent way to assuage any pre-wedding doubts you may have is to spend more time with your soon-to-be spouse. Because it’s so easy to get caught up in the wedding planning stage, you might find that you’ve been neglecting your relationship. Think about it: it’s probably much easier to lose sight of why you’re getting married if you aren’t spending enough time together.
On the other hand, spending more time with your partner might bring your attention to some red flags you’d previously missed. Often, people find that the deal-breakers in their marriage were aspects of their partner’s life that they didn’t even know about. Bad habits are one thing, but serious defects of character are a different beast entirely.
Naturally, it’s best to find out what your partner truly values before you get married. Going to restaurants, having in-depth conversations, and talking with their family is a sure-fire way to find out what they’re really like. After all, you don’t want to make a decision that you may spend the rest of your life regretting.
Hire a Private Investigator
If you’re uncertain about asking your partner invasive questions, you might want to consider hiring a private investigator. A PI can find out exactly what’s been going on with your fiance without them ever having to know. Not only does enlisting our help allow you to prevent unnecessary arguments, but it will also ensure that the information gathered is objective and unbiased. Once you have the information, you’ll be able to make informed decisions about your marriage as you move forward.
A prenuptial investigation usually involves an extensive background check to verify your partner’s claims. Depending on the circumstances, it might also involve some form of surveillance, tracking, or even a lie detector test. To find out more about prenuptial investigations from PI UK, please click here.
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